the new crazies....

ok... so just when i thought my life was pretty uneventful.... drama hits an all time high.... we'll call him Mr. obsess... 'O' for short... so I met O on a dating website.... saw his pic, thought he was pretty cute... talked briefly on msn.. then had a great conversation on the phone. He seemed like a guy i could relly click with so we ended up getting together. our first date was wonderful, we just hung out til like 4am chatting...and I was super excited. two days later we ended up seeing each other again... had a great night, i met some of his friends.. he met some of mine... pretty low key, but fun... then at the end of the night something changed... we were driving home, and he was planning on spending the night and then all of a sudden said he'd just drop me off... which was cool with me, but at the same time I wasa little perturbed that he hadn't decided this earlier... but fair enough, things change...

anyways, this ended up in a HUGE argument... i have no idea why... but it was like he was fighting with someone who was mad at him.. and I wasn't... for example:
me: O it's ok you are going home.. it would just have been nice if you stayed that's all...
O: you just have to understand i have things to do...
me: ya that's fine with me but it would have been nice to cuddle...
O: why can't you get that i need to go home...

this escalated into me feeling like nothing i was saying was being heard and him completely convinced that i was trying to manipulate and coerce him into being here... anyways we ended the conversation and the next morning i woke up really upset about the misunderstanding... he basically wrote me off that day, and yet we ended up having a conversation later that day and i explained myself... it bothered me that we had had a fight over absolutely nothing on our second date.. but at the same time.. perhaps inebriation had a little to do with it.. and figured that it wasn't the end of the world... he suggested that if I thought we could get over it that he really liked me and wanted to see where things went. I agreed... oh no!

so we hung out alot for the rest of the week, but by the end of the week there were things that just weren't sitting right with me... plus the argument showed me a side of him that I didn't want to deal with in a relationship so i became very complacent about continuing to date him.. he noticed and called me on it and i basically confessed that i didn't see this going anywhere.... so we decided on being friends... and that was fine with me...

until he started calling me... 3 times a day, never more, never less... he'd call.. leave a message and then call 2 more times.. the first day i was just busy and didn't call him back.. then when I talked ot him next he said that he had been kicked out of his house and was looking for a place to stay.. that's about the time that i said good luck and quickly got off the phone before i said something really stupid.. like of well you can sleep on my couch!!

by this point i was getting to the point of well maybe I don't even want to be friends with this guy.. i mean if you are calling a girl you just met about finding a place to sleep... you don't have alot of friends in the first place.. and WHY IS THAT???

anyways, he said he was leaving to go back out west in a few days and that he'd like to see me before then.. i said.. well we'll see... and didn't call him back.. he called three times both days... now i was getting a little weirded out by the attention and thought i'd let him leave without seeing him... well then the day after he is supposed to have left i get a call late at night telling me he's in the city and wants to see me... that he's not going to be driving so maybe we can get together..if that's not a booty call i don't know what one is....

now you have to get.. i never slept with this guy.. we have decided not to date.. he has never even seen the inside of my house.. and he's calling me for a booty call... so by this point i have decided i probably won't ever call him back... he calls again 2 hours later and doesn' leave a message.

then... i get a call the next day while I'm at work and it says something like this "thanks alot for calling me back.. you've been a great friend... if you didn't dete4ct it that was sarcasm in my voice (as though you just needs to make sure that I get that he's insulting me) i didn't expect this from you... yadda yadda yadda... i know not to call again... have a good life.

so.. even though i don't like people being mad at me i decide this is probably for the best... let him be mad so long as he doesn't call again... WRONG...

last night... i get a call at 2 am... then again at 2:05. I answer... "what do you want"
he says: "why haven't you called me back?"
me: "dude its 2am.. i'm in bed sleeping.. what do you want..?"
him"that's all fine and dandy, but why didn't you call back?"
me"it's 2am!"
I hang up...

he calls back.. i don't pick up, he leaves a message:

"that's nice, hanging up on me... you are a fucking bitch(or something like that) I just figured you'd beout drinking like you do every night...i can't believe you.. fuck you... and some other things that i don't remember seeing as it was 2am and i deleted it off my phone right away...

OBSESS MUCH??

so there's my new drama for you... i don't know whether i should be scared or laugh... but now i know where the line is crossed between liking someone and being obsessed.. i mean I EVEN know when a guy doesn't call you back.. to delete their number from your phone book and move on...

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the spring has arrived...

as so too has new dating experiences, new friends and... A NEW JOB!

how exciting is that... yes i will no longer be your 25 year old.. university degree server... but now I'll be a 9-5 university graduate with a job that has nothing to do with my degree! yay I'm joining the 'normal' population!

just re-read my last entry... i have nothing that exciting to talk about.. more than likely there are just too many rediculously random things that have happened to me in the past 3 months that I don't even remember half of them...

i've joined beach volleyball, bought a bike, made it to a 5th date with a guy then decided he wasn't right for me... drank alot and been pretty good...

but now that its spring, I'm sure there will be new adventures of me... and I'll be writing more often!
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